Hi,
As far as testing the ECU, you would need a scan tool that can communicate directly with it. However, with the issue you are having, you should be able to tell if there is an issue with the ECU. It needs to provide a ground path to complete the relay primary circuit and engage the secondary. That is what I would suggest.
If you look at the link above that discusses how to test a relay, it explains how to do it.
Let me know what I can do to help.
Joe
Saturday, December 24th, 2022 AT 12:48 PM