You are describing the operation of the torque converter clutch and not the torque converter. However, if you are sure, it is not the converter, then have you checked the mounts if that is what it feels like? Have you checked for a vacuum leak?
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The o2 sensors are showing slightly lean so there is a chance that this is a lean misfire. However, what are the o2 sensors doing when this vibration is not there? Are they the same because if they are then that is not the issue?
You said that they go to 0 at times, when are these times that they go to 0? They should be switching around 0 but if they are steadily positive then that could be an issue.
Again, this would not make sense to be in drive only.
Have you checked the transmission fluid? If this is only in drive at idle (first gear) then that is going to be a different torque load through the converter then in reverse. Also, the fact that this is surging slightly when slowing down, that points to this as well.
I get that you are convinced that this is not the issue but I have seen this exact issue on different vehicles, so it is worth checking. You just need to monitor the RPM vs the turbine speed when it is vibrating and see if they are off.
Otherwise, let us know about the o2 sensors when this is not shaking and see if they are different.
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Monday, November 1st, 2021 AT 7:36 PM