Hey KJONESY,
The relay you are pointing at should be the daytime running light relay.
With your vehicle with the headlights completely off the daytime running lamps should come on when you release the parking brake. This is normal. With the ignition on/vehicle running the park brake turns the daytime running lights on and off.
When you switch the headlights on the daytime running lamps that were on will be switched off and you will then have low beam headlights. You should then be able to switch between low and high beam and flash the high beams.
Can you please retest your lights to be sure which do not work and that the operation is abnormal.
This is best done with two people, one to operate the lights and one to watch which lights come on outside the vehicle.
If you find anything please take a video if you can it may explain a little better the problems you are having.
When did you get this vehicle?
Regards, Joe
Wednesday, April 3rd, 2019 AT 8:39 AM