Fuel pump relay

You need to explain what it is you are trying to do here. Are you trying to test something or are you trying to eliminate the relay?

I need it to pump gas when I want it to. I read some cars you bend a pin on the fuel pump relay and put it back in but I don't know which one.

That would be a safety issue and not something we would advise you on how to do.
The computer controls the fuel pump and it needs to remain that way.