ABS light, traction control and stability all on

That is a bit of an issue. I think the only option at that point is too find a company that will program the body control module for you and then send it to you for you to just install.

The BCM is the gateway module and is what facilitates the communication between the modules and the scan tool. So if you can't communicate with it, then you either have a wiring issue from the DLC to the BCM or the BCM is failed.