Okay, if jumping the relay on makes them work then the issue is either in the forward control module (Body Control Module to everyone but Chrysler) or the integrated power module (fuse box) Those ate connected using the internal traces in the fuse box and the connector to the FCM that is bolted to the box using pin 15. No external wiring. Testing which is the issue would be to remove the FCM from the side of the fuse box and then simply grounding pin 15, if the relay triggers the FCM is the problem, if it doesn't then the traces or connector for the relay is the issue.
Unfortunately they use that FCM to control most of the lighting so simply adding a relay that the headlight switch would turn on or off isn't very easy as they don't use a simple power switch but a computer signal from the switch to the FCM.
If you don't mind a bit of a fudge you could connect in a relay that would turn on and off with the key as a replacement for the jumper wire. That would take a common relay and some wire connected to a spot in the fuse box that is hot in run, it would also act like DRLs as the parking lights would all be on while the engine was running and only go off when you shut the key off. The third image shows that relay. A common 4 or 5 pin will work, there should be a couple that are spares in that box already if you don't have the OEM towing package. Fuse 37 is marked as a spare fuse that is hot in run. It would connect to the relay on the 86 terminal. The two grounds on terminals 85 and 87 would go to a good ground, I've used the same screw or bolt I mount the relay with and a ring terminal for that, as long as it's a good ground. The lead marked rel on terminal 30 would then replace the wire you are currently using on the relay in the box. In operation the lights would come on when the switch was in the run position. They should be off in Off, Acc and start.
To verify that fuse 37 is actually wired the way the diagram shows I would use a test light to make sure it has power with the key on but none in off. The 4 and 5 pin relays are wired the same way, you would just ignore terminal 87A.
This is similar to the way FCA has people wire in relays for the horn, fuel pump and a few other items instead of replacing the entire electrical box and harness.
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Monday, March 1st, 2021 AT 12:31 PM