1983 Ford F-150 starter relay

Electrical problem
1983 Ford F150 6 cyl Two Wheel Drive Automatic

Back in Feb. We had someone help us jump our battery, but they blew the starter relay, we think. We got a new relay, and a new battery, but we must have placed the wires on the relay incorrectly. It is a fender mounted relay. There is a push on red wire, that should be fine. The post on the right has the wire going to the starter, also should be fine. The post on the left has the battery connect cable and three smaller wires, two of which have a red mark on them. One a red flag, the other is just red. We had the wire going to the battery closest to the post, and the starter tries to start on it's own as soon as you hook the battery up. We tried switching the order and this stops, but then when key is turned. All power is lost. I'm not sure what the correct order is from the post out for the wires on the post on the left.I know we should have made a diagram, but we didn't.